Everyday

Everyday

Yes, we get a new one each time we arise from our nocturnal slumber. Yes, it is the only day we can be sure will be lived. We know in our hearts, we must live each day fully.

Everyday Conversations

We spend hours talking everyday. We talk at work, we talk to store clerks, strangers in places, family phone calls. We talk to each other… do we really have the conversations we crave? Conversations about us, not what needs to happen at home, things to fix, errands to do, chores to complete. We don’t need to have those conversations be our only ones. Let’s plan some couple conversations.

Pillow Talk: Yes, chatting while laying in bed. Turn off the lights, fluff up your pillows, roll towards each other. If you can, open the curtains and the window so the light of the moon shines in and the sweet sounds of the night drift softly in. Pillow talk is about secrets of the heart. Whisper, giggle, for there is much to giggle at in the dark. Try to identify the sounds hiding in the dark yard, or busy street. If there is a storm, watch it together, count the seconds between  lightening and thunder. Recall stories from your childhood of storms and under the bed monsters, of wild and childish beliefs. Sneak to the kitchen, in the dark, raid the refidge, it’s light being the only one on and tell more stories. Whisper so your heads are close together, eat your snack on the porch or deck, in the dark and talk about the stars above….Pillow talk.

Remembering Talk: Did you know, talking about when and how you met, fell in love and came to be brings you closer together? True. Your couple past is filled with magical moments otherwise you would not be where you are now. Tell the stories to yourselves often. Go over it again and again and be sure to mention how your heart fluttered when the other came into the room. Relive the first kiss, the softness or the passion or even how mischievous it was! Ahh, the good times, romance and wonder! Now look into each others eyes, hold that gaze, deep, and let it soften…there it is. It is all still there. Do this often.

Wouldn’t it Talk: This is more that a planning conversation. It is about ideas and wishes. Wouldn’t it be fun….wouldn’t that be great… we could…. and it would be…let’s plan…                      Maybe you will really do it, maybe not. Some great ideas come from this and some wild ideas that maybe you should actually do. We love to talk about trips and food we want to eat and restaurants to go visit, garden ideas,home remodeling. This is best done after dinner, eaten on the deck or patio.  Sobremesa is the Spanish word for when you keep talking after the meal has ended with the people who shared your meal. Sip a perfect cup of coffee or finish your wine, pour another for la sobremesa is when the talk and the laughter are just more food and drink- it is the whole experience.

 

Living Everyday

Do you make New Year resolutions? The long list of what you will fix so that your life is what you desire? I did for years. I was usually daunted by my list of these things wrong or missing in my life. The question popped up- is this helpful? Do I feel let down by my resolutions not being met? Why… yes!

SO… I made a list, my Life List, of all the things I wanted in my life (can you tell I am a list person?) and made a pledge: Everyday I will do something on my list or something to get me closer to my Life List. Instead of focusing on fixing, I am now focusing on doing.

My new motto is simple: EVERYDAY.

One word, one action. This day. Join me on my Everyday and add yours.

Today, I am seeking solitude in nature, part of my promise to myself to find time just for me. A bike ride on the prairie seems just right for this morning. The bike path is smooth and quiet at 7am. Just a few fellow seekers and exercisers. The air is filled with swooping swallows as they chase their morning meal, the tree frogs are still singing and the air is fresh. I pedal quietly by the lake and stop to sit on the bench and watch the grey heron as he is fishing.

At the swimming lake, the seagulls play bird games on the buoys. The game plays like this: gulls sit on the buoys. Once the buoys are full, other gulls fly at them and try to tag them off. That gull then does the same to others. The laughing gulls find this grand fun as they laugh the entire time the game is played! A loud and fun time!

 Back on the bike and home through the now wooded bike path!